Susie learned manners at an early age. “What a nice girl,” people would say. Susie learned acceptable behavior but as she grew older she rebelled against the rules, finding them empty and overly restrictive. Teaching respect is not enough.

Honor comes when you recognize a person’s worth or value. Respect focuses on behavior, doing the appropriate thing, whereas honor comes from the heart. Respect acknowledges a person’s position, while honor attaches worth to that person. Respect teaches manners and proper behavior in the presence of others. Honor teaches something deeper, an appreciation of that person.

Respect can become an outward technique to make a family look good to others, but honor builds the hidden bonds that provide great strength and long-lasting unity. It’s one thing to obey the crossing guard out of respect for his position. It’s yet another to show honor to him because you know him as a friend.

Although we’re making a contrast between respect and honor, don’t assume that honor is good and respect is bad. Both have their place. When children are young, they learn respectful behavior, but as they grow older, they can develop a heart response of honor as well. It’s good to teach respectful behavior but it’s important that you not stop there. Honor adds a deeper dimension to relationships.

Honor deals with meanness in relationships. Honor does a job thoroughly and with a good attitude. Honor looks for what needs to be done before being asked. All children (and adults) need to learn honor. Teaching it makes a big difference in family life.

This parenting tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Today’s tip was used with permission from the National Center for Biblical Parenting. Visit them at http:www.biblicalparenting.org

Every 4th Saturday of the month, we have the opportunity to serve breakfast at Salvation Army in Roseville.

Time: 8:15am

Where: 100 Lincoln Street, Roseville, CA

Come join in the ministry!

Every 2nd Wednesday of the month we have the opportunity to serve dinner at The Gathering Inn.
This is city wide mission to feed the homeless.

Time: 5pm

Where: Meet at Hillcrest Alliance Church in Roseville Directions

Come be apart of this city mission!

www.thegatheringinn.com

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PBC Family Work Camp w/L’aBri
July 23-30, 2011

Bowen Island, B.C.: Canada

Check Out The Website!

www.labri.org/canada/

We say honor is…

1.       Treating people as special.

2.       Doing more than what is expected. 

3.       Having a good attitude.

Use our honor definition or make up your own. The point is that honor changes people. It changes the way that parents relate to their children, the way children relate to each other, and the way children relate to their parents. We all need it.

You can use the concept of honor in correction or when things are going well. You can use it when you teach your children about money, time, and other resources, and you can teach it when conflict comes around. One of the best ways to teach it is on special occasions when someone wins a contest or earns a certificate. You may show honor by giving that person a fancy place at the table or by decorating his or her bedroom door.

Honor is fun. It’s like oil in a machine. It gets work done with less friction and less heat. Every family needs honor. It’s great when things are going well and essential when family relationships are strained. You can work on honor whether your kids are preschoolers or teens. It will change the way your family relates.

This parenting tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Today’s tip was used with permission from the National Center for Biblical Parenting.                                         
Visit them at http:www.biblicalparenting.org

Focusing on behavior change is not enough. Many parents work hard to help their children look good on the outside. Inadvertently, these parents teach their children “image management” the ability to appear good, clean, and nice. A change of heart is what children really need though.

Unfortunately, you can’t force children to change their hearts. But, we can do a lot to motivate them to make the necessary changes. We’ve identified several tools that, when used properly, address the heart. First, use sorrow instead of anger in the discipline process. Parents who misuse this technique often lay a guilt trip on their children. The key is to be genuine. If you, as a parent, look past your anger for a moment you will see that you truly are sad about what your child has done because you know the long-term consequences of such behavior. Reflect it in a gentle way. It’s amazing to see how children will respond.

Another way to influence a child’s heart is to use the scriptures. The Bible has an amazing quality, the ability to pierce through to the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Don’t use the Bible in a harsh way. Instead, reveal what the Bible has to say about being kind or respectful or obedient. There’s a lot of wisdom and conviction that comes through the scriptures.

Be sure to talk about the heart during times of correction. “I can see you’re angry because I said no, I’d like you to take a break for a bit and settle your heart down and when you’re ready, come back and we’ll talk about it.” It will take work and a child may need some long times to settle down at first, but a change of heart is worth it in the end. Resolve the tension by having a Positive Conclusion together. Talk about what went wrong and why it was wrong. Address heart issues, not just behavior and help children see things from a deeper perspective.

You may think of some other ideas but whatever you do, don’t rely on simple behavior modification techniques. They don’t go deep enough and often don’t address the real issues.

This parenting tip comes from the book, Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Today’s tip was used with permission from the National Center for Biblical Parenting.
Visit them at http:www.biblicalparenting.org

Robed in the righteousness of Christ, my life will never be the same. This will be a weekend of refreshment, friendship, and  encouragement.

Date:
September 24th – 26th

Time:
6pm Friday – 12 noon Sunday

Where:
Truckee, CA  (Monica’s Sister in law’s place)  Click Here for directions

Take I-80 East (towards Reno) approx. 1-1/2 hrs, go PAST downtown Truckee exit….take exit #190 “Overland Trail”( keep right), Right on Fairway (keep right at the fork)

Cost: $25

What To Bring:
All the normal “stuff” for you to be comfortable for 2 days and 2 nights
Pajamas
Clothes (cool weather and warm weather)
Walking Shoes
Toiletries
Sleeping bag/pillow (limited amount of beds)
A deck of cards for Nertz (what’s Nertz?)
BIBLE
Please bring a snack to share!

A Few Details:
We will carpool.
Several can sleep on beds and some of us can bring our own  air mattresses.
Breakfast and an early dinner will be provided.
Swimming pool/hot tub/exercise room available for $10.00/day per person
There will be testimonies from a few of our PBC ladies and times of sharing.

R.S.V.P:

Please let us know that you will be coming!
(Sign Up Sheet is available @ back table in Church)

For more information, please contact Darlene Stordahl or Monica Gavia or email info@providenecbiblechurch.org

Date: October 14th – 16th

Where: Yosemite National Park

Details: Leave Roseville around 10am on the 14th and return the evening of the 16th

Cost: $85/per person + food and gas

R.S.V.P:  Please let us know you WILL BE coming by August 19th!

For more information, please contact Bishop Bastien or email info@providenecbiblechurch.org

That’s one solution parents commonly use when their children start fighting. Other parents separate the children and try to keep them apart in order to maintain peace. They imitate a referee at a boxing match, breaking up the conflict and sending the fighters to their opposite corners. Unfortunately, continually separating children doesn’t solve the problem. In fact, the children often come back again to fight some more.

We believe both of these solutions are inadequate because they lack the depth needed to bring about lasting change. When parents only separate the offenders or walk away, they miss valuable opportunities to help their children grow.

Conflict with brothers and sisters is a child’s first class in relationship school. Your home is the classroom, you are the teacher, and honor is the curriculum. Each conflict situation becomes an opportunity for teaching children how to get along.

When two children are fighting, call one out of the room and talk about how to deal with the conflict. Teach children how to confront, ignore, negotiate, compromise, talk about problems, and be peacemakers. Then send the child back into the situation to try again. If necessary, call the second child out and give helpful suggestions before trying again. Whatever you do, don’t try to discipline them together. Kids have an amazing way of deflecting discipline when they are together.

Be listening to your children’s interaction and continue to coach them in relationships. You may call the same child out of an activity five or ten times in an hour to continue to point out the change that needs to take place. Help children know what right actions are appropriate, and as long as they are willing to try to do the right thing, send them back into the situation to try again.

Use sibling conflict to teach about healthy relationships. It takes a lot of work but you’ll be preparing your children to deal with the difficult relationships they’ll encounter for the rest of their lives.

What are some ways that you’ve found helpful to teach your kids to honor?

This parenting tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

This tip was used with permission from the National Center for Biblical Parenting.                         
Visit them at http:www.biblicalparenting.org

Children with strong wills have the potential to become the next generation of leaders. They have their own ideas and plans. They know what they want. They’re persistent, confident, passionate, and determined to succeed at whatever they choose to do.

Leaders have an agenda, look for ways to incorporate others into their plans, and have a high need for control in life. Balanced with graciousness, leaders become a treasure because they make things happen, create organization out of chaos, and motivate people to action.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to raise a leader. These kids tend to have their own ways of doing things and like to tell other people (including their parents) what to do. A strong will keeps a child moving in a certain direction in spite of obstacles. Often these children need bigger barriers or tighter limits to teach them that those boundaries are firm.

Don’t be discouraged by the effort it takes to teach a strong-willed child which limits not to push. The strong-willed child accomplishes things in life, because the roadblocks that might hold others back are no match for this kid’s determination. Your job is to help him know the difference between obstacles to overcome and limits to live within.

A strong will can be an asset… as long as the heart is in the right place.

 This parenting tip is from the book, Parenting is Heart Work by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

This tip was used with permission from the National Center for Biblical Parenting.                         

Visit them at http:www.biblicalparenting.org